saw someone say ‘a lot of men don’t actually want to participate in raising their children, they just like the aesthetic of having a family’ and god that is so true
Sex with women, marriage, and children are symbols of masculine coming-of-age. A lot of men get upset if they can’t access these things because it makes them feel unmasculine in the eyes of other men, but I don’t think a lot of these insecure guys have asked themselves whether relationships or fatherhood are things they actually want, or if they’re emotionally prepared for the reality of participating in these things. They see it like buying a car or a house, and are shocked when there’s a whole different person and a set of responsibilities attached.
